I heard an Army officer say once, that when you have an alternate opinion, use the word And which is inclusive rather than But which implies I disagree with you and my opinion is better.
Made-up example.
Person A “The solution to the problem is obvious, we should ask the complainer why he is unhappy.”
Person B “But we should also offer a solution when we find out why he is complaining.”
Rather Person B should say “And we should also offer a solution when we find out why he is complaining.” It acknowledged Person A’s contribution and does not discredit or diminish it.
It’s a point well made, and I’ll keep it in mind for future use.
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When I heard it years ago, I found it a true eye-opener and excellent advice.
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Makes sense. Simple idea that we might not always consider when communicating.
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It really is wise advice. I wish I remembered it more often.
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I have to remind myself to try And instead of But, which is the spontaneous response.
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Agree, Becky. Easier said than done.
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This makes so much sense! I love it.
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Thanks, Kally.
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Seems to me that’s wise advice especially when you’re dealing with a prickly personality. I’ll have to remember AND.
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I agree. Remembering us the trick.
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Very interesting point – I like using both, often at the beginning of sentences – it’s something I think we weren’t supposed to do at school, so I delight in doing it now!
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It can make a nice sentence opener. Glad you liked it.
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