Use And instead of But

I heard an Army officer say once, that when you have an alternate opinion, use the word And which is inclusive rather than But which implies I disagree with you and my opinion is better.

Made-up example.

Person A “The solution to the problem is obvious, we should ask the complainer why he is unhappy.”

Person B “But we should also offer a solution when we find out why he is complaining.”

Rather Person B should say “And we should also offer a solution when we find out why he is complaining.” It acknowledged Person A’s contribution and does not discredit or diminish it.

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